The ability to be emotionally separate is foundational to maturity in leadership.  Emotional separateness can be thought of as keeping one's emotions apart from the emotions of others, or being a distinct self.  When emotions become entangled, individuality gets fogged over. Many social systems, such as families, organizations, community groups, promote a kind of emotional entanglement, mistaking this entanglement for connection.  Paradoxically, emotional separateness is a pre-requisite for deeper connection in relationships.  To have a true connection, one must first be a separate individual.  

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Each branch of the bonsai tree must remain separate and distinct.